FAQ´s - Frequently asked questions
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We are new to the scene, Please can you put us in contact with a
couple who will look after us.
Sorry, but this is not something I can do. I am not a full
time match-maker, but a webmaster. There are too many variables for me to try
and decide which of my acquaintances may be interested in you.
You need to create a profile on a reputable swingers site, and
contact other swingers through that site.
I am a single Male. I have met 2 couples but on both occasions I
found I could not perform as well as when I pick up a girl. I really like the
girl from one of the couples, how can I get her to come and play with me on her
own?
Oh dear!. Sorry to hear about your performance problem, its
not un-common for guys to have this problem. When we meet a guy who has
problems on the night, I will often leave my partner and him alone for a
while, until he regains his confidence. However, not all couples are happy to
do this, as for them the fun is often for the girl to be active with the
visiting male, and for the male partner to watch or join in the fun.
Remember that the couple are being generous allowing you into
their relationship. If you cannot perform don't worry, they will be
disappointed, but often give you time to try again.
If all else fails, try some of the little blue pills for men.
As long as you are turned on by the girl, you will then get an erection, and
almost certainly be able to perform like a porn star.
Do not try to persuade a girl to meet you on her own, unless
they have hinted at the possibility you could upset them and lose them as
playmates.
I am a married woman who is desperate to get back into the
swinging scene. I used to visit swingers clubs for sexual release when I was
single, but gave them up when I met and married my husband. He is a lovely man,
but after 4 years of marriage, the sparkle has gone out of our sex, and I am
lucky if I get serviced once a week. I have tried expressing my fantasies, which
turn him on, but he will not consider either making them come true in private or
by visiting a club. How can I persuade him to join me at a club, or to meet
someone to spice up our sex life.
Oh what a common lament. In 30 years of swinging I have heard
this complaint hundreds of times from both ladies and men. Against popular
myth, it is more often women than men who are looking for ways to enliven
their relationship. I guess the men being lazier take the easy way out and
cheat, whereas the woman tries to find ways of resolving the problem.
It sounds like you have worked hard to get your man to
consider ways of livening things up, but either he is satisfied with things
the way they are, or he is afraid of losing you if he does agree to having
some adult fun. He may be feeling hurt that you have raised the topic, and
bruised the delicate male ego by causing him to think that he is no longer man
enough for you.
All I can suggest is to continue talking to him, show him some
swingers web sites, and tackle the subject outside the bedroom so he cannot
roll over and go to sleep. Maybe create a profile and make contact with some
people, and then show him that people would be interested in meeting you both.
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